Happy New Year…hopefully I will be back stronger than ever and my readers are still with me

Here is an advice piece that I received while over the holidays, the person asked for my honest opinion so here it is.

Hello, I read all of your blog tonight and found it interesting. I have
called phone sex off and on for the last 20 years. But not regularly
until the last 8 months. In which time I have been having a tremendous
GFE phone sex relationship with a PSO. I think that I really do love
her. I love her voice and her mind. I know the pictures are not her. I
read your post about GFE phone sex and I don’t understand why the pso’s
are so afraid of having their identity revealed. Afterall, I revealed
my identity to her and to her company and have spent thousands of
dollars. She wanted a picture of me so I e-mailed her some. Why are you
so afraid of being ‘given up’ as you put it? She told me she would have
an online relationship with me even if I didn’t call. I should send you
the chat transcript a few months ago when I was feeling like a number
on her weekly report and told her so and she got extremely upset with
me and told me she was not like any other pso. She said, go try and
chat with other pso’s and see what happens, eventually they will say
“wanna play now” or the like. So I did and she was right. So I’m
confused maybe… is it reality or fantasy? Part of it is kindled in
reality and she tells me that it is too. But part of it is kindled in
fiction too. I’m afraid to ask for real info though, because I’m afraid
of losing her. I’m afraid to tell her that I know the pictures are not
her and that I know she has 7 characters on the site. So I play along.
Would I buy her a house or a car? Yes, I would. I’ve even offered, but
you know… I honestly don’t think she needs anything. She heard me say
it but didn’t respond.I deal with reality pretty good in business, but when it comes to this
kind of thing, I’m not sure. If she would straight out tell me that
none of it is real… idk… I would probably still call… and that
would be real would it not?

p.s. And it looked like you were going to sell your domain or your
blog? and I thought I was a sell out… LOL… maybe I should ask you
for your number. Well you know… your phone sex number.

Ok, I’m going to try to answer this in order of each statement or question.

I
read your post about GFE phone sex and I don’t understand why the pso’s
are so afraid of having their identity revealed. Afterall, I revealed
my identity to her and to her company and have spent thousands of
dollars. She wanted a picture of me so I e-mailed her some. Why are you
so afraid of being ‘given up’ as you put it?

It’s part of the fantasy sweetheart. In general, most clients don’t know or don’t want to know that the pictures they see aren’t really us. It ruins the fantasy for most when they find out or if we hint to it. A lot of guys play the “I know its not you” card but they really want us to say, “Yes it is me” so that they feel validated in looking at a hot girl and it helps them ease the questions of identity. There are men, such as yourself, who don’t care either way, but its a gamble with those men because when and if we do tell them the truth, the next question they ask is, “Can I see the ‘real’ you?” and 9.9 times out of 10, that is something we are NOT willing to do. We are afraid of being ‘given up’ because at the end of the day, this is a job, and just like you don’t want to do things that put your job in jeopardy, neither do we with our clients and the income they provide us with.

I was feeling like a number
on her weekly report and told her so and she got extremely upset with
me and told me she was not like any other pso. She said, go try and
chat with other pso’s and see what happens, eventually they will say
“wanna play now” or the like.

In general, you are number on her weekly report, you are a client who gave her money and increased her earnings so you are a stat on her chart. Yes, I have had clients who I have talked to way after they stopped being a client, but it was mostly online, in the hopes that they would come back to me as a client. Every pso is different and the way they handle their clients is different, so what one pso will do, another will not.

So I’m confused maybe… is it reality or fantasy? Part of it is kindled in
reality and she tells me that it is too. But part of it is kindled in
fiction too. I’m afraid to ask for real info though, because I’m afraid
of losing her. I’m afraid to tell her that I know the pictures are not
her and that I know she has 7 characters on the site.

It is fantasy sweetheart, plain and simple. With GFE, it is the best and worst fetish/fantasy because you have stick to a lot of the truth because when the relationship starts to grow longer, you will forget some of the lies and things you make up. With my GFE clients, we talk about what we do on a regular basis, so that is true, when I say I had salad for lunch and I went shopping at the mall, that is true, but when it comes to what I did with him, or what I thought about concerning him, its usually fantasy. No, I really didn’t see a shirt while shopping and thought about how hot he would look in it. No I didn’t pretend it was him while I was receiving a massage, but I tell him those things because in a real relationship, your signficant other would love to hear that. GFE stays as close to a real relationship as possible.

You are what I call a “dangerous” client. You see how great the relationship is, and you want more which is only natural. You want the relationship to continue and strive outside of the phone. You want validation that she cares for you for more than your money. You want to know the “REAL” her. It’s a dangerous game because even with all the tricks and tips that pso’s have to lead you away from these thoughts, they don’t last long. Even though you say you would still call and talk to her, in reality, you won’t. Because what drew you to her in the first place was her characters face. You choose her on how she was portrayed as looking. Then when you talked to her, her personality, her voice, and the satisfaction she gave you is what kept you with her. What if she does take a chance on you, what if she tells you that she is not the blonde bombshell but in fact a 55 year old divorced woman who chain smokes and is 400lbs? What if that sexy voice you think she has, is in fact a fake voice she uses for you? If you say nothing will change, then you are telling a lie. That will disrupt your fantasy, no matter how hard you try to want otherwise, it will make a difference.

. If she would straight out tell me that
none of it is real… idk… I would probably still call… and that
would be real would it not?

It would be real in the sense that you still like the company, that you like what you get from her, and that she knows she has a loyal, satisfied customer in you. Even in your question, you were doubting yourself if she did in fact tell you it is not real, you said you don’t know that you would still call her. You are happy in relationship with her correct? But you need to remember that at the end of the call, you had a great experience is a professional who gave you exactly what you wanted. The End. It sounds harsh and even if you direct her here to read this and she denys it  all, it won’t make it any less true, because if you were my client and I read this, I would say its not true, that you mean more to me, thats it different with you, and I would point out all the things I do with you that can be considered “breaking the rules” as a way to show you. You are still money to me, and I want to satisfy you.

There are three things any “good” pso wants from each customer:
1. a satisfying call that pleases the customer
2. a sense of longing that the customer to takes with them for you specifically
3. a repeat call from the customer.

These are things that we all want from callers, we want you to have a great time with us, we want you to think about us only, and to call us back. Repeat business is the best thing and that happens when you give quality service.

I know a lot of what I said here is harsh but its the truth. It doesn’t have to take away from your experience with your pso, because that in itself is special for you and her. I’m also not saying that what you and her have is only business. I have had many clients that I have grown to like talking to. You feel happy when they call you and sad when the relationship ends.You seem to have a great pso, who knows how to take care of you. Like she told you, there aren’t many pso’s who know how to handle a long term relationship so you should stick with her. If she makes you happy, then thats what you should leave it at.

Oh and as far as your P.S. goes, how does me selling my blog make me a sellout? This blog has nothing to do with business, its a hobby that had grown too time consuming for me. You already have a great pso, you don’t need my number….hehehe.

If you would like advice that you would like from me concerning anything, not just phone sex, please ask here: Advice

I have been threatened that if I sale this site, I will be hunted down(Evan) so I want to say, thank you to all the offers for my site but I will be keeping it for just a little while longer. I am going to try to fit this back into my schedule. I was taking a breather from everything and after the holidays are finished, I will be back in action. Please don’t leave me just yet as I will be back with tales of horny married men in the Christmas spirit and New Years cheer….haha!

So stay tuned because Phone Girl is back….and hopefully I’ll be better.

You read right, this site is going on sale. I will miss all my readers and commenters but this site is just not fun for me, I loved it because it was so original but I don’t really have the time for it, so I think I’m going to to sale it. If anyone is interested, please contact me and we can talk about it…. look at my stats, they are pretty good for this site being so young… the name itself is a money maker.

So I’m sorry to all my loyal readers but as of right now, this site is going on sale unless I can have someone who will do my posting for me until my schedule clears up, if I can get some guest posters that will keep the site up, I will consider that to.