Unprotected Sex

Written by Datecow on September 20, 2008

Having sex is natural, fun and something that most people desire.  These days having sex simply isn’t something you can just go and do without worrying about the consequences.  Between the risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease and pregnancy it really blows my mind how anyone can have unprotected sex, even with someone they love.

It makes me wonder a number of things; are we being punished for being sinful? are we defective in the fact that we seek out sex far too often? and how do we control our sexual urges so that we don’t end up doing something that we will regret?

While it is true that unprotected sex does feel better than sex with a condom, we all need to step back for a moment and realize what happens when we ignore common sense. HIV awareness seems to have been lost in the past several years. While there has been increased funding for HIV programs abroad, it is rare that you will see TV commercials or newspaper articles discussing the risks of unsafe sex.

I think people are far too trusting of each other.  I recommend the following tips to keep yourself free of STD’s.

1. Get tested every 6 months for peace of mind.

2. If someone you are dating has not or will not get tested, avoid having sex with them until they do.

3. Don’t assume because you are in love with someone that they are not cheating on you. This is especially true of bisexual or gay men who are dating women and sleeping with men on the side.

4. Seek out partners who wish to build a relationship other than sex. Those that are more patient sexually tend to be less likely to have an STD.

Your best bet is to find a committed partner who will get tested with you and get tested often to assure you can both enjoy sex safely.

Desperate is so unattractive

Written by Datecow on July 21, 2008

Many women make the mistake of broadcasting the fact that they have been hurt, lied to and let down by so many men before and that they just need to find the right man who will appreciate them and complete them. While that may be their honest feeling about dating it also is sending the wrong signal to potential men.

When men read women’s profiles they usually can pick out the desperate women very quickly. Certain men are seeking the kind of woman that “needs” this and is tired of that.  What message is that sending to men? Simple, it’s telling men that they just need to act a certain way in order to get what they want out of that woman they are pursuing.

Men need to be told what they cannot do, they don’t need to be told what they can get away with. Unfortunately, a lot of women don’t realize that what they tell men about their past relationships and their future needs can sometimes be a recipe for the same type of relationship repeating where the woman gets taken advantage of for being too timid.

If you want to find a man that will be good to you then you need to be good to yourself first and be stronger when it comes to dating. Men are very much like dogs. Train them to be the best dog they can be.

Oh my goodness…lol

Written by Datecow on July 17, 2008

Was she really surprised?  I think she wished she could also let one rip.

Why neighbors suck

Written by Datecow on July 16, 2008

Having neighbors is pretty much an inevibility, and in many cases is a pleasure.  I have had neighbors in my life who have become love interests, arch enemies and good friends. All of the scenarios are acceptable and not a surprise.

The type of neighbor I cannot accept is one that feeds wild animals. You know, the crazy neighbor that throws breadcrumbs into the street and the next time you turn around wild turkeys are in your driveway making strange noises and flapping their feathers.  Then they move to your trash cans to see what else may be available to eat.

If I could give one piece of advice to anyone moving into a new apartment it would be to be aware of neighboys who think birds and turkeys are people. Those kind of crazy folks are the bottom of the barrel in my book.
This clip shows how much fun having a nutty neighbor can be.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=NNlV3n_ZAz0&feature=related

Thank you John McCain

Written by Datecow on July 15, 2008

In unrelated-to-dating news John McCain once again shows how unfit he is to be the leader of the United States. It comes as no surprise to anyone who has followed his career. He’s it quite simply a dud. McCain doesn’t have the brainpower or class to be President.

In reaction to learning that the U.S. exports cigarettes to the Islamic Republic of Iran, McCain remarked that it may be “a way of killing ‘em.” This just ads to the number of foreign countries who have lost respect for him before he has even won the election. Earlier in the presidential race he remarked that he sees the letters “KBG” when he looked into Vladimir Putin’s eyes.

Thank you John McCain for making the United States less safe. What a bafoon!

Too pretty to walk?

Written by Datecow on July 14, 2008

I have never been attracted to super tall beauty pageant types. Sure, they look good on paper, but how can you date someone who can’t even keep her cool at a beauty pageant?  Sorry Miss USA, I won’t be dating you after this embarrasment.

5 things to work on before dating online

Written by Datecow on July 13, 2008

Not everyone is ready or capable of meeting someone online. Some people just can’t handle the waiting, writing or variables that come in to play when seeking out a partner online.

1. You have very little patience. Online dating requires that you place an ad and seek out others or wait for someone to contact you. Don’t expect instant results.

2. You don’t have any recent or decent looking photos of yourself. Once you upload your photo you are out in dating cyberspace. If you are not happy with your photos, wait until you get better one’s before you risk turning off a potential match.

3. You are still angry or grieving from a previous relationship. People can tell when you are not ready to date again. Wait until you feel confident that you have moved past prior sadness or regret before placing a personal ad online.

4. You have had many sexual partners, but have never been tested. Do yourself and others a favor and get tested for STD’s. It is an outrage that more people don’t know their HIV status until it’s too late and others have been infected.

5. Review other personal ads to get ideas about what to write. Plenty of dating websites let you browse for free. Jot down some notes before placing an ad that is less than appealing.

The big vagina

Written by Datecow on July 12, 2008

Curb has it right.  There certainly are some big vagina’s out there causing men to think they have small penises. C’mon ladies, fight fair already!

All bark and mostly teeth

Written by Datecow on July 11, 2008

Sadly, there are women who will give this guy a chance even after seeing him humiliate the human race on TV.

How to fight the online dating blues

Written by Datecow on July 10, 2008

I know it can be frustrating. You’ve joined a few dating sites and haven’t received any substancial responses. Unfortunately, meeting someone online is not a procedure for the weak hearted. You may have to try several dating sites over the course of months or perhaps years until you meet your match, but isn’t the “real world” just the same way.

If you look on the bright side you are really doubling your chances by joining online dating websites. It’s kind of like a passive income system. People are looking at your profile even while you’re sleeping.  Chances are you will receive an email from someone who fits what you are seeking when you least expect it and you will be happy you kept your membership going for as long as you did.

In my experience having a positive attitude even when you are not meeting anyone online is reflective of the kind of future responses you may get.  When you update your ad claiming how lousey the other members are or venting about your previous bad experiences with online dates it tells potential soul mates that you have baggage and a chip on your shoulder.

Many online daters will cancel and then renew their dating memberships at least twice before they find a steady relationship and it’s normal to have those apprehensions, but don’t forget finding the love of your life is a game of chance as much as it is skill.