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The Economics of Infidelity

• Even infidelity has its price, new research suggests.
• Would-be participants in an extramarital affair tend to calculate both the economic and biological benefits beforehand, researchers from the University of New Hampshire (UNH) and Bryant University report.
• But factors that go into the decision differ slightly between men and women, said study author Bruce Elmslie, an economics professor at UNH.
• Women weigh factors including financial stability, education and whether the man is a good candidate to father a child, Elmslie wrote in a university news release.
  

"These factors do not come into play for men who, overall, are 7 percent more likely to cheat than women," he added. "The likelihood of a man having had an affair increases with age, and reaches a peak when a man is about 55 years old. It then decreases with age. For women, the peak is 45 years old." "The benefits of female infidelity reduce after the age of 40 because a woman would no longer benefit in terms of improved gene quality from the affair," he said. "Men also experience a reduction of sperm quality around the age of 45, but the reproductive benefits of an affair extend further into a man's lifetime than a woman's."

The study also found:

• Upper-class women are 8 percent more likely to cheat than other women, while men are equally likely to cheat among all economic classes.
• Men who have gone to college are 3 percent less likely to have an affair than other men, while educational status has no impact among women.
• Unhappy men are 13 percent more likely to have an affair, while unhappy women are 10 percent more likely to do so.
• Religious women are 4 percent less likely to cheat, while religion has no impact on whether men have an affair.
  

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Volume 61 Issue 3, Pages 391 - 410; Published Online: 17 Jul 2008
By:Bruce Elmslie 1 and Edinaldo Tebaldi 2 *
1 University of New Hampshire, Department of Economics, 15 College Road, McConnell Hall, Durham NH, 03824, 2 Bryant University, Department of Economics, 1150, Douglas Pike, Smithfield, RI 02917

GOOD SEX EVERYDAY, KEEPS DOCTORS AWAY!

A kiss could help keeping dental worries at bay or a gratifying sexual act at night make you feel fit and fresh the next morning.

But that's what studies across the web claim.

The key to your mind and heart is fulfilling sex. Even for those who lose their temper or are always in a depressed state of mind, 'sex' can be the solution.

A happy sexual life with your partner not only gets you in shape with better skin texture and silken tresses, it also burns extra calories, keeps you fit, combats asthma, relieves headache, reduces depression and tranquilizes your mind. From make-up experts, hair stylists, sexologists and fitness connoisseurs – there's a common consensus that a vigorous sexual life leads to a healthy life – both physically and emotionally.

Dr. Sanjay Chugh, specialist on sexual issues, states, "Sex contributes to general good health. Any sexual intimacy that is enjoyable and pleasurable promotes well being by providing several physical and psychological benefits. It is believed that sex boosts chemicals in the body that protects us against diseases. Research also suggests that sex and masturbation can help ease joint and muscle pain, combat depression, promote heart health and lengthen one's life span."

Dr. Samir Parikh, clinical physiatrist adds, "The basic fact is that a good sex life also means in a larger picture, a good relationship with one's partner and this makes the partner happier, less stressed and by virtue of that physically healthier."
Not just this, sex also accelerates blood circulation and one's basic metabolic rate, which further enhances the well-being of our mind and soul and helps us calm down. On these emotional benefits, Dr Chugh adds, "A satisfying sexual relationship strengthens the bond between couples, making them feel secure and loved. The feeling of emotional connectedness adds to ones sense of belonging, which in totality helps them achieve a positive physical, psychological and spiritual state that is necessary for one's general health."

Elaborating further, on a scientific angle, Dr Avdesh Sharma, a consultant psychiatrist, and an expert on relationship issues shares, "Sex is a way of bonding at the physical, mental and emotional level and leads to health (including psychological) benefits. If it is used as a mechanical process, it may have limited benefits. There are physiological benefits of positive changes in parameters like pulse, heart rate, reduction in blood pressure (after an increase in B.P. specially if vigourous sex is tried), dilation of blood vessels and capillaries of the skin, leading to a 'glow', burning of a few calories (depending on the duration of the act and vigour), exercising of some of the muscles, thus improving lung capacity (during heavy breathing)."

"The extra edge of sex may be due to the feeling of being wanted, an expression of emotions and certain hormonal and physiological changes that happen as an expression of love for another individual. Unfortunately, the benefits of sexuality are usually quoted out of context and people may look at this as a panacea for everything. But sexuality without emotions have limited value," concludes Dr Avdesh Sharma.
based on:
Good sex everyday, keeps doctors away,29 Sep 2008, 0000 hrs IST, MONIKA RAWAL,TOI

5 TIPS FOR SAFE ONLINE DATING

There’s a nervousness, thrill, and excitement that occurs when meeting a person
for the first time face to face. But remember to always be on your guard when
going out on a date with someone you barely know.








Here are 5 tips on dating safety to help your online dating experience:

1. You should arrange to meet him.
When meeting for the first time, never allow your date to pick you up from your
home. In fact, your date should not even know your home address at this point!

2. Meet in busy public place.
For your first meeting, always meet in a busy public place where other people
are in close proximity. You may also want to consider going out with a group of
friends, or a double date.

3. Do not be afraid to pay half of the bill.
It's always respectful for the man to offer to pay the entire bill.
Unfortunately, some men ruin the gesture by expecting something in return.
Therefore it may not be a bad idea to pay half the bill so that you won't feel
under any obligation to "return" the favor.

4. Remember that alcohol can affect your judgment.
The largest threat to a person's judgment, when on a date, is alcohol. Not only
does it affect your judgment, but alcohol also lessens your inhibitions..

5. Use your own transportation.
Provide your own transportation to your public meeting place and make sure you
have more than enough gas.

Dating safely is very important. In the initial stages of dating and online
dating, you are still getting to know someone you know very little about. By
creating a safe environment to know the person, you’re creating a better
situation for yourself.(http://www.triplecrownnewsletters.com)