Open Your Heart to the Love

I have this joke I tell all my male friends, when they start complaining about the women in their lives, and PMS, “Between Pre Menstrual Syndrome, During Menstrual Syndrome, and Post Menstrual Syndrome, we women have about five good minutes a month. And, damn it, we are usually asleep.” My male friends all love it. They always laugh, as they shake their heads in agreement.

I was with a friend the other day, and her guy was being uncharacteristically pissy. She referred to him as having PMS. It started me recalling a time in my life where my significant other and I were having a lot of relationship problems. I was talking with one of my friends, seeking consolation, during one particularly hard time, and made a joke about the moon phase. She told me it was funny that I would say that, because she had noticed a couple of months earlier that when he and I would have problems, it always fell during the same time she was on her period. At the time I, of course, was the one who was being blamed for all of the problems we were having, but the thing was, it wasn’t correlating with mine, so I originally dismissed the idea.

Later, I started to take note, and she was right. It got so I could time his bizarre behavior, and knew that it was going to crop up without fail, sometime during certain dates of the month. That’s when I started doing some research, and learned about Andropause. He fell in the right age group, and the symptoms fit him to a “T”, but it still didn’t explain why they were happening monthly, like clock work. So back to the drawing board I ventured.

I have written several articles on pheromones, and have more forthcoming, so I couldn’t help but wonder if a woman’s copulin production and fluctuation played some sort of role, in a man’s monthly mood swings. After all, it has been proven that a man’s testosterone level will increase up to 150% after being exposed to a woman’s copulins. Also, a man’s testosterone levels are highest in the morning and lowest at bedtime, a fact all women should take note to. But the copulin theory was just my own ponderings.

So, along my journey, I found that there were some studies conducted by a group of psychologist from the University of Derby, headed by Dr. Aimee Aubeeluck. They had a group of 100 men and women fill out questionnaires, which asked questions revolving around the symptoms that usually are recognized as being associated with the menstrual cycle.

Apparently, the men were experiencing cyclic mood swings, each month that correlated with the same symptoms that women experience during her cycle, aside from the bloating. She stated, “…there has been previous research that suggests we all have natural internal biorhythms, and the male symptoms could somehow be caused by that,” and “Because men don’t have periods, they simply dismissed those cyclical symptoms as being caused by other outside factors.” Dr. Aubeeluck believes that there may be some yet undetermined cause that explains why both sexes are experiencing the same symptoms, and intends to do more research on this, but I did not find any further findings from her group.

Hmm, biorhythms? I had always thought that was associated with Astrology somehow, but needed more of my attention. I found out that biorhythms were first examined and studied by two separate psychologists during the same time period unbeknownst to each other, in the early 1900’s. Dr. Hermann Swoboda, Psychologist and Dr. Wilhelm Fliess, M.D., both started observing cyclical behavior amongst their patients, and decided to take a closer look. They both came up with a 23-day and 28-day cycle, which appeared to be affecting both men and women. It wasn’t just affecting moods, but also being susceptible to contagious diseases that they had been exposed to, and other factors. Dr. Fliess came to the conclusion that there is a correlation between these rhythms and evolution, the creation of organisms, including life itself.

He also, believed that all of us have inherited both male and female characteristics, which is commonly believed today. Our reproductive organs do have a correlation between each other...the male’s testes and the women’s ovaries; the female clitoris and the male penis.

Alfred Teltseher, a teacher and doctor of engineering also noticed a pattern in his students. He discovered that their was a thirty-three day cycle between when students were able to easily grasp a new concept, and when their capacity to think quickly and clearly was diminished, which was determined by his associates as possibly being affected by the thyroid gland, or some other rhythmic secretions of glands that affect the brain cells.

Donald A. Laird, director of the psychological laboratory at Colgate University, stated, “To most people moods are an eternal puzzle, no one knows whence they come or where they go. Science has recently discovered moods are by no means a matters of chance. They are not, as we have long supposed, simply reactions to the success or failure of our plans. On the Contrary, they grow within us as a direct result of the rise and fall of our emotional energy. It has been proved that our bodies and minds produce, store up and spend our emotional energy in regular cycles.”

I happened across this site the other day, and I thought, what a wonderful gift! With Christmas right around the corner, I had to share it with you. Aside from lingerie, or a diamond ring accompanied with a proposal, I thought this would make the perfect romantic gift.



What they do is add you and your significant others' names as the heroins of the book. You have several stories that you can choose from. It would also make an excellent wedding gift, don't you think?

They also have children stories, where you can substitute the heroin for those great kids in your life. Can you imagine the pride that they will feel, to have a book with their name in it?

The perfect keepsake!

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We are conceived through a connection, of the deepest kind, between a man and a woman, and from the moment that we are conceived, we are connected to our Mother in her womb. When that physical connection we began with is separated at birth, we spend our lives desiring to be connected again. How we go about, and how well we succeed, at re-creating that connection…becomes the story of our lives.

There is a saying that states; men will use love to get sex, and that women will use sex to get love. Men are wired to easily separate their feelings from sex, and can engage in sex with a woman for the pure pleasure of the sensations. Not that a woman is incapable and won’t do the same thing, however, this is very hard for a woman. Most women, or at least this used to be the case, have a hard time of separating their emotions and sex. Sex for a woman is an expression of her feelings, or a search for love, and a connection. So many times woman will sleep with a man, in hopes that he will now love her. It just does not work that way.

When I venture out for a few drinks at a bar, I love to sit and observe all the people around me. I see so many women so willing to give up their dignity to the first man that will pay them any attention, and then leave with them for a night filled romp in the hay. The same women are back again the next night, to do the same with the next guy. I have even witnessed, time and time again, when the bar is closing, and the lights come on, if they haven’t hooked up for the night, for them to desperately seek someone out the few remaining men…in one last attempt not to sleep alone. What they are so desperately looking for, is someone to love them, but then wonder why they are still alone. Asking themselves, “What is wrong with me?” And their self-esteem and confidence is only further shattered with each new exploit.

There are also many women that will easily allow themselves to become the “friends with benefits”, in hopes that he will realize what a wonderful catch she is, only to later, wonder why the man so easily can move on to another woman, when he is ready for a relationship. “Why her, and not me”, they find themselves asking. Many times he has made it quite clear that he is not looking for a relationship with them, only friendship. However, she has still shown that she is more than willing to share the most intimate part of herself with him anyway. She has been more than willing to stroke his ego and his penis, without requiring anything of quality in return. She has already shown him that she does not expect that quality and commitment, so why should he give it to her now?

Women that go out with a man and bed a man that is taken, whether married or otherwise, is as much a cheater as he is, and clearly places no value on the sanctity of a commitment, union, and relationship between two people. So how is it that these same women agonize over the fact these same men will not leave their wives for them? She has already shown that she places no value on a commitment, and is more than ready and willing to cheat. Statistics clearly show, out of the men that do leaves their wives, only 10% end up marrying, or having a long term relationship with, the woman they have been cheating with.

What these women don’t seem to realize, is a man will easily sleep with them, because they can. But when they are looking for someone to become “the One”, they want a quality woman that thinks enough of herself, to be selective about the man that she is willing to share herself with. He wants to know that he is special, and has won over her heart and body. Not that he is one of many.

For a man to feel attraction toward you, he has to see value, and much of the value he sees in you, is the value that you place on yourself. They need to know that you love and trust yourself, so that they can also trust you. There is nothing more attractive than seeing a person that places value and worth on themselves, by being selective.